Dear Well-Meaning Peeps:
I understand that you mean well, but, I feel compelled to share a few of my thoughts.
I am tired of people saying "Take the time to enjoy your children, while they are young, because this time goes by so fast."
I am feed up with people telling me, "Be sure to appreciate this time with your kids!"
I know, that these comments are well intentioned... But, embedded in those statements, there is an underlying assumption that I do not appreciate or enjoy my time with my boys right now.
Guess what... I do enjoy them! I do appreciate this time in their lives.
I love their curiosity. And their innocence. I love doing fun activities with them and watching them experience new things. I love cuddling and snuggling. And I love tickling them and hearing their giggles. I also love the sounds of them playing together and listening to their conversations. Their imagination and creativity is amazing! And I love to witness their naive brilliance! There is SO much about right now, that I love!
But it is true, there are times that I don't appreciate. Like their fights and arguments that I have to break up. And their inappropriate farting noises that they, of course, think is wildly funny. And I do not enjoy when they don't listen to me, and when they lie to me ("I did wash my hands!" - yet I know that no water was turned on). And I don't like their whining! It grates on my nerves.
And please do not expect me to enjoy and appreciate all those things!
I am a mom, and I love my kids.
But I am more than just Alex and Owen's mom. My name is Kim. I am a real live person with passions, interests and activities that I want to pursue.
So please, understand that I do savor this time that I have with my young boys. And, when I mention that I need to find "something for ME" do not dismiss my importance as a human, by suggesting all of this time - while they are young - should be spent enjoying my children.
Thank you for your understanding!